Love’s Way, a new book by Carolyn Parr and Sig Cohen, is the single best resource for aging peacefully that I know of. These two experienced mediators have written a practical and comprehensive guide for anyone conscious of moving from midlife autonomy to increasing interdependence with family or friends. As the subtitle suggests, it’s about “living peacefully with your family as your parents age.”
Carolyn, a local judge and long-time member of Festival Church, draws from her experience in Church of the Saviour as well as her legal practice. Her mediation partner, Sig Cohen, is a retired Foreign Service officer with a keen eye for family dynamics. By alternating chapters, they cover a broad range of issues, from emotional roadblocks and sibling rivalry to economic and legal matters. The personal stories make it accessible and engaging.
Here is the list of topics featured on the back cover:
- How to address family issues such as unhealed sibling rivalries, parental favoritism, greed and secrecy
- How to navigate all the necessary legal documents such as wills and powers of attorney
- How to promote forgiveness in your family and in your own heart
- How to speak truth in love to parents, siblings, and children
- How to let go and heal any family rifts.
Love’s Way can be purchased at The Potter’s House, from Hendrickson Publishers, or ordered from other commercial websites.
-Marjory Zoet Bankson, Seekers Church
In this article in Yes!, an online magazine, Sydney Worth reviews the book Seven Things People Forget To Do Before They Die. This book was written for a Canadian audience but can also be useful to Americans. Amazon describes the book as follows: Death is a part of life. We used to understand this, and in the past, loved ones generally died at home with family around them. But in just a few generations, death has become a medical event, and we have lost the ability to make this last part of life more personal and meaningful. Today people want to regain control over health-care decisions for themselves and their loved ones. Talking About Death Won’t Kill You is the essential handbook to help Canadians navigate personal and medical decisions for the best quality of life for the end of our lives. Noted palliative-care educator and researcher Kathy Kortes-Miller shows readers how to identify and reframe limiting beliefs about dying with humor and compassion.
The first on the list of things people forget to do is:
1. Use the D-words.
Death, dying, and dead. Clear language rather than euphemisms such as “passed away” or “transitioned” can help loved ones recognize end of life as a normal event and provide better support.
To read about all seven things that people forget to do, click on the following link: https://www.yesmagazine.org/issues/death/die-do-before-bucket-list-20190827
To read the Washington Consumer Checkbook articles on aging in place, click on the following link: https://www.checkbook.org/washington-area/aging-in-place
A long-time Seeker who has moved to Vermont plans ahead for her death. Read about her experience by clicking on the following link: McMakin-Looking Forward-Draft_Rev9-2019-0909 (1)
the Montgomery College Institute for Lifelong Learning (http://cms.montgomerycollege.edu/wdce/ce/lifelonglearning.html) offers a number of courses on financial planning that help participants plan their financial futures. Courses include:
- Health care insurance for retirement
- The Thrift Savings Plan for federal employees and retireees
- Maximizing Social Security Benefits
- Probate in Maryland: An overview for executors-to-be
- Protecting your hard-earned money (avoiding fraud)
- Retirement distribution strategies
- Retirement planning today
- Stocks, bonds, mutual funds, and ETFs explained
- Wills and estates
Students 60 and over are eligible for reduced tuition.
Caring for or preparing to care for an older family member? Check our the AARP planning guide at: https://www.aarp.org/caregiving/
How much money do you need to retire? The AARP offers a retirement calculator at https://www.aarp.org/work/retirement-planning/retirement_calculator.